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		<title>Quickie Personal Brand Workshop &#8211; 5 Essential Personal Branding Steps&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Nov 2011 17:06:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>Creating Your Personal Brand &#8211; Part I: Defining Your Brand</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Nov 2011 15:19:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The most important first step in creating an effective, compelling, personal brand that drives referrals, buzz and word-of-mouth business is to DEFINE your personal brand as narrowly as you can. Consider these essential elements: What value do you provide (rather &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/11/17/creating-your-personal-brand-part-i-defining-your-brand/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=834&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The most important first step in creating an effective, compelling, personal brand that drives referrals, buzz and word-of-mouth business is to DEFINE your personal brand as narrowly as you can.</p>
<p>Consider these essential elements:</p>
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<li>What value do you provide (rather than what services you offer)? Here’s an example, if you are a personal trainer, try positioning yourself in terms of the result: “lose weight,” “get in shape,” or “get hot.” Keep in mind that to cut through the clutter, you’ll want to choose something memorable, something “sticky.” David Barton Gym uses “Look Better Naked.” Now that’s memorable.</li>
<li>Who is your target customer? Get specific. If you say “everyone” or “anyone,” that’s simply not defined enough – especially online.</li>
<li>In what geographic area do you focus?</li>
<li>What makes you different from your competition (your USP &#8211; unique selling proposition)? This is a tough one because a UNIQUE selling proposition by definition means that other people can’t say the same thing. So if you say “unparalleled service” or “top-notch quality” that’s simply not unique enough (because everyone says that). How are you truly different from everyone else? That’s your USP.</li>
<li>What are some basic key words (like “luxury real estate” or “small business coach”) that you’d like associated with your name?</li>
<li>What do you want to be top of mind for? From the above, create a one-liner that describes who you are and what you do, that you can start using in multiple places (more on where to deploy this later). For example, mine is “Michelle Villalobos delivers never-boring workshops, seminars and keynotes to help professionals – especially women – market, sell and promote themselves. Our programs are 100% performance guaranteed, or you don’t pay.”</li>
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<p>Keep in mind that your goal is ultimately to be “top of mind” for something, and it’s impossible to be top of mind for multiple things – at least at first. So if you have a side business or have two jobs, you need to choose one brand that encompasses both, or just focus on one. Later, once your brand is established, you can start to expand your brand and leverage it into new areas.</p>
<p>Think of Martha Stewart, who got her start focusing on food and catering. Once established in that niche, she started expanding her focus to encompass “homemaking” in general. Plan now for where your going 1 &#8211; 3 years out.</p>
<p>Stay tuned for parts 2 &#8211; 10 of this Personal Branding Series. Want more? Check out our Personal Branding video training program at www.MakeThemBEG.com.</p>
<p><em>Michelle Villalobos is based in Miami, FL and travels nationally &amp; internationally to consult on brand strategy and deliver workshops, seminars &amp; keynotes, especially for women&#8217;s groups and companies marketing to women.  </em></p>
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		<title>What Is A &#8220;Personal Brand&#8221;&#8230; And Why EVERYONE Needs One To Get Ahead</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2011 15:06:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>michellevillalobos</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Personal Branding is the process of developing a brand around your name and what you do. This brand communicates your skills, shares your personality and conveys your values. Personal branding is a &#8220;must&#8221; everyone these days. Whether you are self-employed &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/09/15/what-is-a-personal-brand-and-why-everyone-needs-one-to-get-ahead/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=832&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p>Personal Branding is the process of developing a brand around your name and what you do. This brand communicates your skills, shares your personality and conveys your values.</p>
<p>Personal branding is a &#8220;must&#8221; everyone these days. Whether you are self-employed or working your way up the corporate ladder, Personal Branding raises your profile, establishes you as an expert in something, and increases your market value so you can earn more. Think of it this way: you are the CEO of the business called YOU. In this day and age ANYONE can and should develop a personal brand and deploy it online.</p>
<p><strong>Personal Branding 101</strong></p>
<p>The 3 key steps of personal branding are:</p>
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<li>Define – in a compelling way – who you are, the value you provide and to whom. What are you the expert of? Who&#8217;s going to pay you for that?</li>
<li>Develop – create and gather your personal brand elements: everything from your name and the images that are &#8220;out there&#8221; of you (like a professional headshot), to the professional headlines and descriptions of yourself that you use on social media such as LinkedIn or Google Profiles, and everything in between.</li>
<li>Deploy – get your brand out into the world through a variety of tactical means, like social media, networking &amp; referral marketing</li>
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<div>Ready to learn more about personal branding? Visit <a href="http://www.MakeThemBeg.com">www.MakeThemBEG.com</a> for a free 4-video mini course on the subject.</div>
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<div>Who loves you?</div>
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<div>Michelle Villalobos (vee &#8211; ya &#8211; low &#8211; bos)</div>
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		<title>Just Say &#8220;No&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jul 2011 16:45:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[For the first few years of my business, my default answer to most ANY request &#8211; requests for favors, free advice, &#8220;picking my brain,&#8221; meeting for coffee, unpaid seminars, writing proposals, &#8220;exploring potential synergies&#8221; or partnering on new projects &#8211; &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/07/13/just-say-no/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=814&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p>For the first few years of my business, my default answer to most ANY request &#8211; requests for favors, free advice, &#8220;picking my brain,&#8221; meeting for coffee, unpaid seminars, writing proposals, &#8220;exploring potential synergies&#8221; or partnering on new projects &#8211; was &#8220;YES.&#8221; I was a &#8220;yes&#8221; MACHINE.</p>
<p>All those yeses got me into trouble. First off, I ran myself ragged &#8211; oftentimes for people and projects that wasted my time and didn&#8217;t pay. At one point I was working 90 and 100-hour weeks &#8211; without much to show for it. Second, I had far less time and energy to spend on the clients that DID value my time and WERE paying for the privilege of working with me.</p>
<p>Something had to give. I was forced (thank goodness!) to put systems in place to protect my time.</p>
<p>I know I&#8217;m not the only one who struggles with this challenge, so I&#8217;ve put together a few of the processes my team and I have implemented, perhaps they&#8217;ll inspire you:</p>
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<li>First and foremost, I switched my default answer from &#8220;yes&#8221; to &#8220;no.&#8221; This doesn&#8217;t mean that I don&#8217;t take on new opportunities, meet new people or embark on new projects, but it does mean that I&#8217;m muuuuuch more discerning about how and who with.</li>
<li>If a substantial request is and I&#8217;m leaning towards &#8220;yes,&#8221; I instead say &#8220;let me think about it and get back to you tomorrow.&#8221; This technique buys me the time I need to evaluate the opportunity (because some requests DO merit a big, fat &#8220;yes&#8221;) and, when appropriate, to formulate a thoughtful, and respectful (yet FIRM) &#8220;no&#8221;.</li>
<li>Rather than meeting with and sending proposals to all whoexpress interest in working with me (the &#8220;old&#8221; way), we now use a <a title="media kit" href="http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?llr=qftdnecab&amp;et=1106520400247&amp;s=11216&amp;e=001pBsYrWLQAoueCyy750oPIniSlMKYdvXuqA0OdDDP9WlKLZUn-pLIEIzziwsAIrQC2boonsRkwRe3DpUN6PdCLimRIZFScP95ljFtu6vuOvPZ8qv6uWK0pVff95nb8oBDKa1WmxchM14UQZtN6BpYIg==" target="_blank">media kit</a>  so potential clients can see what we offer and decide if they want to move forward. Showing price up front filters out those who aren&#8217;t serious or whose budgets are unrealistic.
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<li>Have you met Toma yet? I&#8217;ve hired her to manage my calendar and ensure that important meetings and client work get scheduled. Delegating this simple task has released HOURS every week to allow me to focus on what&#8217;s really important.</li>
<li>I set aside one whole day a week to do exploratory phone calls with people and prospects. This limits the amount of time Ispend on potential time-wasters.</li>
<li>I no longer work for free. Period. And I&#8217;m much more willing to let business &#8220;walk away&#8221; because I know that the space that remains will be filled with activities that bring real value to our bottom line.</li>
<li>I get so many requests for one-on-one meetings with people I really want to connect with &#8211; but I just don&#8217;t have enough time. So now I invite them to a small group lunch (max 8 people) that I host every month. If they come, GREAT, we chat and get to know each other, and if they don&#8217;t, well then I figure they weren&#8217;t that interested in the first place.</li>
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<p>The upside since implementing the above?</p>
<p>Way better clients, way cooler projects and waaaay more free time for FUN. I actually have a LIFE!!<a href="http://michellevillalobos.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/317.png"><img class="alignright size-medium wp-image-817" title="317" src="http://michellevillalobos.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/317.png?w=222&#038;h=300" alt="" width="222" height="300" /></a></p>
<p>Plus now I have quality time to spend on the clients that really deserve it. Just one example is GKIC who I just came back from visiting in Chicago (with Badass Business Woman Jessica Kizorek). You&#8217;ll be hearing more about that project for SURE.</p>
<p>Speaking of Jessica Kizorek, here&#8217;s a pic of us after a hike with our favorite accessory &#8211; the <strong>Make Them <span style="color:#ff00ff;">BEG</span></strong> sweatshirt. Want one? Sorry, that was a limited edition &#8211; a limit of two, one for her, one for me <img src='http://s1.wp.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' />  BUT you CAN still join us for our all-day workshop on July 22nd. If you sign up now you get the workshop AND the <strong>Make Them <span style="color:#ff00ff;">BEG</span></strong> training program &#8211; a sweet package deal. <a href="http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?llr=qftdnecab&amp;et=1106520400247&amp;s=11216&amp;e=001pBsYrWLQAovQUgoJCCj-OVduTNpe-tEEebI8yJ2ljuPqFRxGFdmG_-TAkSimgNeh2aceTOwgnj-SatQnzAJ3eXptfpl63_j9FCnwXi-oWVJWp_Ehd3BqGFakhkDDBjrf" target="_blank">Click here to register</a>.</p>
<p>Remember: Just say NO!!</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[1. The World Is NOT Your Sales Team The most important thing to remember in networking is the whole world does not exist to be YOUR sales team. If you want to create a network that refers a ton of &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/05/10/biggest-tip-for-effective-networking/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=809&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<h2>1. The World Is NOT Your Sales Team</h2>
<p>The most important thing to remember in networking is the whole world does not exist to be YOUR sales team.  If you want to create a network that refers a ton of business you must remember that networking is about creating long-term and mutually beneficial relationships&#8230;. not just leads for yourself.  Serve others in your network long before you ever expect to get anything in return.  Givers get.  Yes, you are busy.  But those who are the best networkers are always watching.  They can smell a selfish networker from miles away.  Connect others just because you can and you will be rewarded over the long run of your career.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Thom  Singer of <a href="http://thomsinger.com">NYP Speakers</a></p>
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<h2>2. Get Them Complaining, Then Offer Something Free!</h2>
<p>When I&#8217;m networking, I love to ask people if they are busy. They invariably say yes, and I ask what they are busy with. Often they have conflicting priorities, no clear plan, no delegation strategy, no time management or all of the above. What I&#8217;ve done is gotten them to talk about the &#8220;pain&#8221; that I can solve for them</p>
<p>Once they&#8217;re done venting, I let them know that if they like, I&#8217;d be happy to give them 15 minutes of my time (I call it a Focus Session) to see if I can come up with a few tips to bring them relief. I mention that I have a 100% success rate. At the end of the 15 minutes, I introduce coaching programs and how we can work together further if they choose.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Mary Cravets of <a href="http://findyourvahere.com">FindYourVAHere.com</a></p>
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<h2>3. Effective &amp; Creative Networking</h2>
<p>TAKE A PARTNER/COLLEAGUE &#8211; PROMOTE EACH OTHER</p>
<p>I live/work in Washington DC and there are 100 networking events morning, noon &amp; night.  I try to get out in the mix.  If I can I take a colleague from another company that I have worked with or vice versa.  Having someone with you to tell of your success comes across 100x more effectively (and less arrogant) than boasting about your own success.  This works both ways, and so in turn, we promote each other.  We have real-life examples on how we have worked with each other successfully and these stories are convincing to potential new clients.  What better way to have a real-life reference!</p>
<p>HOST YOUR OWN EVENT</p>
<p>Additionally, I was able (for ~ 2 years and counting) to host a no-cost networking event at the prestigious Kennedy Center (performing arts center in Washington, DC).  The Center has a free (every day) live music performance in an open area with a light snack/beverage service.  It is a high-class, beautiful setting, very well lit and great music playing in the background.  By hosting your own event (at your office or elsewhere) you become a credible source and again, real-life references (my clients) are there to speak to my prospects.  Additionally, the crowd is able to mingle and make business deals.  It has been quite successful &#8211; costing me nothing but my time &#8211; and cost my attendees nothing but their time.  </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Jennifer Schaus of <a href="http://jenniferschaus.com">Jennifer Schaus &amp; Associates</a></p>
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<h2>4. Make Every Minute Count!</h2>
<p>Three tips to maximize your ROI: Professional name badges that include your logo.  These will enhance your brand awareness while it helps you present a professional image.   <br />Never sit with your business partner.  If you are there with partners, don&#8217;t network together.  Separately, you&#8217;ll give your business twice the exposure.<br />Practice an elevator speech that focuses on the most common problems you can solve.  It&#8217;s not about what you can do.  It&#8217;s about what you can do to alleviate my pain.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Marianne Carlson of <a href="http://emcie.com">Emcie Media</a></p>
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<h2>5. Business &#8220;dating&#8221;</h2>
<p>Networking is &#8220;business dating&#8221; Remember that you did not tell your first<br />&gt; date everything to know about you, but were afraid to ask! So too, with<br />&gt; networking. It is about building relationships within the process of<br />&gt; networking.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Denise Beeson of <a href="http://denisebeeson.com">BaySierra Financial, Inc/ Or Santa Rosa Jr. College</a></p>
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<h2>6. Networking Tip &#8211; Paying It Forward Pays Off!</h2>
<p>Think of your connections as longterm relationships and focus on helping them &#8211; believe me, they will remember! Pass along useful information as quickly as possible. Constantly put relevant people in touch with each other . . . even though you might not directly benefit from that particular connection, it is still an extremely effective form of networking. People will remember that you kept their needs top of mind, not just your own, and most of the time they will later do the same for you!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Selena Cuffe of <a href="http://heritagelinkbrands.com">Heritage Link Brands, LLC</a></p>
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<h2>7. The Best Way To Get Referrals And New Clients From Networking</h2>
<p>The single most important part of networking is to ALWAYS help others.  Let them know you care.  Of course, in order to help them, you need to know them well enough to be able to effectively help.</p>
<p>I have been an assistant organizer of www.NYEBN.com for almost 2 years, and have gained many clients for my IT firm as a result.  The unique opportunities to help members were directly due to being a part of the organizing team; the result is that those I helped, referred clients or became a client. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Susan Risdal of <a href="http://entechserv.com">Enterprise Technology Services, LLC</a></p>
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<h2>8. It&#8217;s Not About You. It&#8217;s About Pulling Others In.</h2>
<p>I like to meet people, learn about what they do and what they are interested in. This also gives me an idea of who they know. With their business card, I can follow up with a note or email, pass along an article or tip and begin building a relationship. After a few contacts they feel that they know me. Only then have I earned the right to ask for information, advice or a referral. Once you build a bank account of positive interactions then people are happy to help you in return.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Myra McElhaney of <a href="http://myramcelhaney.com">McElhaney &amp; Associates</a></p>
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<h2>9. Givers Who Listen Get High Marks For Networking</h2>
<p>Give before you get!  When you give with no expectations just to be genuinely helpful it is amazing how generous others will be towards you.  Karma really works.</p>
<p>Be a good listener, people will tell you a lot if you give them the opportunity so listen for ways you can follow up &amp; help them.  They will love it!  </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Paige Arnof-Fenn of <a href="http://mavensandmoguls.com">Mavens &amp; Moguls</a></p>
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<h2>10. Get To Events Early </h2>
<p>When attending a networking event for the first time go a few minutes early. Often this gives you a chance to meet people as they walk through the door one on one. You almost serve as a greeter for the event. It&#8217;s much easier to walk into a networking event when you are first or only a few people are there than when there is a room full of conversations already happening. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Shannon Myers of <a href="http://waltonsearch.com">Walton Search </a></p>
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<h2>11. Networking WTF</h2>
<p>Networking is often categorized as &#8220;working the room&#8221; or &#8220;working a crowd.&#8221; I am convinced that networking is about earning someone&#8217;s trust, being the first to give, and only then asking for the business. It&#8217;s what I call the &#8220;Wow Them First&#8221; (WTF) approach.</p>
<p>The next time, rather than ask for business or a referral, give it instead. That gets people&#8217;s attention, they&#8217;ll know you mean business and they&#8217;ll want to do the same for you.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Edgar Mejia of <a href="http://conex360.com">Conexion</a></p>
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<h2>12. Authentic Networking</h2>
<p>Sincerity not Numbers</p>
<p>Instead of thinking about networking success in terms of the number of people you meet at networking events, or getting big numbers on LinkedIn or twitter, think about Authentic Networking as making real connections with people that you would actually like to meet.</p>
<p>Then stay in touch with them because you share a real reason to be connected.  This is the way to both grow and build genuine value into your network.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Patty Azzarello of <a href="http://risebookonline.com">Azzarello Group, Inc.</a></p>
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<h2>13. Get Best Networking Results By Being More Helpful</h2>
<p>1. Listen (for example) to the Q&amp;A at a presentation, then go up to someone who asked a good question and say, I like what you said because&#8230;.</p>
<p>2. Introduce someone to someone else they wanted to meet.</p>
<p>3. Walk by two people who are talking but not totally absorbed with each other, and look for a way to slip into the conversation&#8211;ideally with something that can help one or both.</p>
<p>I discuss a number of forms of networking&#8211;both online and in person&#8211;in my 8th book, Guerrilla Marketing Goes Gree</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Shel Horowitz of <a href="http://greenandprofitable.com">Green And Profitable</a></p>
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<h2>14. Ask The &#8220;Million Dollar&#8221; Question</h2>
<p>Successful networkers are genuinely interested in others.  Show you are by asking questions and listening carefully to the answers from the people you meet.  Then you can ask the &#8220;Million Dollar&#8221; question.   &#8220;As I go through my day I meet a lot of people.  Please tell me, how will I recognize a perfect referral for you?&#8221;  Doing this helps the other person understand that you aren&#8217;t only in it for yourself and that you are a great connector.  It will also prompt others to ask the same of you.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Glen Gould of <a href="http://thesuccessfulnetworker.com">GlenGould.net</a></p>
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<h2>15. Niche To Meet You!</h2>
<p>Before you plan the &#8220;how&#8221; you need to think about the &#8220;whom&#8221;.  As a business owner it is important to ask yourself, &#8220;Whom, specifically, do I want to be known and trusted by?&#8221; Starting off with a smaller demographic of people versus trying to become known by a whole city will speed up the process of trust building and can help you consolidate your marketing budget. It is amazing the amount of information you can find on-line so search engines are the perfect place to start your research. The goal is to find out where your niche market networks and communicates with other people like themselves.  Most groups and association have websites with networking calendars available to the public.  Start with where your niche market physically gets together then expand upon that.  Find out what websites they visit along with which magazines and newsletters they read. This will help you decide where to direct your advertising efforts.  Where your niche is, on and off-line, you should position yourself as a resource.  Do this and the trust will follow.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Sarah Cochran-Loy of <a href="http://">American National / Loy Marketing, LLC</a></p>
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<h2>16. Best Networking Tips</h2>
<p>My approach to networking is confidence (Yes, I say it like it is a tool). Confidence paired with a smile, eye contact and good posture. Confidence makes people think you know what you are talking about, i.e. your business strategy, competition, trends, how to solve problems and so on. Practice it, believe it &#8211; Success will follow. Not so easy? Start by simply listening. All good business people start by listening more than they do talking&#8230;maybe it should be called &#8216;reverse networking&#8217;. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Jenny Kincaid of <a href="http://socialwrx.com">SocialWRX</a></p>
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<h2>17. Listen By Data Mining Then Share Valuable Offerings On-Line &amp; Off-Line</h2>
<p>Proactive listening and connecting on-line and off-line. Research to identify targeted potential Clients and Partners then sign-up to stay informed of their needs and interests via Website, Blogs and Social Media platforms. Express gratitude for information shared on-line then reciprocate by sharing value added insights. Helps for you to stay on top of mind. When meeting off-line at professional events, continue to listen to identify more needs and interests so you can create valuable offerings.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Brenda Leguisamo of <a href="http://socialbizmembers.com">Social Biz Members</a></p>
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<h2>18. Eclectic Colaborative Business Services</h2>
<p>My colleagues and I have created more than a network referral group.  It is a group of professionals from various disciplines providing educational opportunities for each others clients as well as the community at large.  We are doing a public presentation once a month on a members topic of interest.  More information is available at http://www.cincybrg.com<br />The Cincinnati Business Resource Group.  Contact my self or Erika deStefano at edestefano@claimlinx.com</p>
<p>Mike McCormick</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Michael McCormick of <a href="http://cincytaxcoach.com">MJ McCormick, LLC &#8211; Cincy Tax Coach</a></p>
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<h2>19. Network With A Purpose</h2>
<p>Here are my top five networking tips:</p>
<p>1. Never give somebody your card unless they ask for it.  </p>
<p>2. Wear your name tag on the right-front side, it&#8217;s where people naturally look when shaking hands.</p>
<p>3. Have a goal for your networking event. (e.g. collect business cards, make an introduction, get an appointment)</p>
<p>4. Never, ever &#8220;sell&#8221; when you&#8217;re networking. It turns everyone off.</p>
<p>5. In as little as 3 minutes, you can meet somebody and get permission to follow-up with them.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Michelle (Shellie) Seyfarth, PhD of <a href="http://seyfarthdiversified.com">Seyfarth Diversified Strategies</a></p>
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<h2>20. Networking Shouldn&#8217;t Be Predatory</h2>
<p>The number 1 tip for networking I give anyone is: Its not about you.  Networking sounds predatory to many because an easy way to think about it is&#8221;I need a job or I need a business referral&#8221;.  However, if a person enters into networking positioned to understand and then share with the other person, then its truly learning about the other person and how you can help or support them.  The pay off comes to you once you are seen as a person worthy of giving back to.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Dorothy Tannahill-Moran of <a href="http://nextchapternewlife.com/">Next Chapter New Life Career Coaching</a></p>
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<h2>21. Pay It Forward!</h2>
<p>The best practice that is working for us is the &#8220;pay it forward&#8221; approach. We help business acquaintances, clients, and prospects without asking for anything in return. The help could be an introduction to someone else, a recommendation, a resource, or valuable advice.  Without asking for anything in return, people naturally feel indebted to you for the good deed you did for them. They will &#8220;pay back&#8221; by eventually hiring us, recommending us, or putting us in touch with someone we need. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Aliona  Groh of <a href="http://hoyman.com/">Hoyman Dobson CPAs</a></p>
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<h2>22. Networking Without Sounding Like A Pig!</h2>
<p>No offense to the pig! The most effective networking tip is to ask a lot of questions about their business. I then ask an insightful &amp; industry specific question about trends/challenges. If true for them, I might follow up with a recommendation on a book/article. If possible, I&#8217;ll email a link to them the next day. The point is to plant the seed of your knowledge. That&#8217;s when they start to ask what I do. Now I can be a little more brash-after all they asked!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Rob Jager of <a href="http://hedgehogconsultinginc.com">Hedgehog Consulting, Inc.</a></p>
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<h2>23. How Can I Help You?</h2>
<p>My best networking tip that I have learned and implemented is that when you are networking and you meet someone for the first time, do not talk about yourself and your business, talk about them. Ask them how you can help them? Who they are looking to meet? Effective networking takes time and you have to start with getting to know someone so that you can build a relationship. Always follow up with a nice to meet you note, email, phone call, or card so they will remember you!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Michelle Morton of <a href="http://michellemorton.wordpress.com">Michelle Morton.com</a></p>
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<h2>24. Four Top Tips For Entrepreneurs</h2>
<p>1. Be a savvy networker. That means, networking, talking, connecting with<br />people everywhere you go.<br />2. Share your contacts freely. If you go into networking just looking out<br />for yourself, it is not going to work as well as if you share and help<br />other people.<br />3. Have an online presence. Get on LinkedIn (a professional social<br />networking site) and optimize your LinkedIn profile. &#8220;It is the best thing<br />you can do for your business.&#8221;<br />4. Just do it. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Dana Humphrey  of <a href="http://whitegatepr.com">Whitegate PR</a></p>
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<h2>25. It&#8217;s About True Connection!</h2>
<p>Be you. Be authentic. Have a personality. Don&#8217;t be what you think the &#8220;appropriate consummate networker&#8221; ought to be.  </p>
<p>Have an interesting story that&#8217;s super short. </p>
<p>For example, after introducing myself, I often start with &#8220;I started my career when I was seven years old when I taught school in my garage to five neighborhood kids I bribed with candy to be my students. Now, I&#8217;m a professional speaker and workshop leader.  I also help women entrepreneurs use speaking to get more clients, make more money, and have a bigger impact. I&#8217;ve been doing this since I was seven.</p>
<p>Be more interested than interesting.  Be genuinely interested in the other person, and look for ways to support them.  The key here is &#8220;genuinely,&#8221; not as a technique!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Ava Diamond of <a href="http://feistywomenrock.com">Feisty Women Rock!</a></p>
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<h2>26. Be Prepared To Tell Your Story</h2>
<p>Bring a business card with you, but leave everything else at home. Instead, prepare your personal 60-second story &#8212; who are you and what are you seeking? If you can&#8217;t grab someone&#8217;s attention within a matter of seconds at a networking event, their mind has already wandered to the next person in the room.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Heather Huhman of <a href="http://comerecommended.com">Come Recommended</a></p>
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<h2>27. Increase Traffic To Your Website</h2>
<p>One of the most effective tips is to distribute content related to the website&#8217;s theme. Properly distributed content easily creates more traffic that even continues to grow over time. Publishers are seeking content which is informative and educational. After you have attracted readers with an informative article, then direct them to your website through your &#8220;About the Author&#8221; box. Then Publishers are happy because they have high-quality content and you are happy because you have more traffic!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to LACIE BURKE of <a href="http://croonerlabs.com/">Crooner Labs</a></p>
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<h2>28. Don&#8217;t Be A &#8220;Biz Card Ninja&#8221; &amp; Other Tips</h2>
<p>1. Don&#8217;t be what top marketing strategist Olalah Njenga calls a &#8220;Business Card Ninja&#8221;<br />2. Don&#8217;t show up looking like you just rolled out of bed or worked out<br />3. Don&#8217;t wear beat up shoes. Shoes are a dead giveaway to your attention to detail and your level of confidence and success<br />4. Keep in mind the &#8220;generations&#8221; going. Matures, Boomers, Gen X, Millennials &#8211; know how to &#8220;speak&#8221; to them<br />5. Decide who you want to connect with and learn about them online &amp; in publications<br />6. Don&#8217;t hang by the food</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Eileen Batson of <a href="http://bgmpr.com">Batson Group Marketing And PR</a></p>
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<h2>29. Stalking On Social Media Is Not A Federal Offense&#8230; In Person It Definitely Is!</h2>
<p>Make the connection, get the card and follow up via Social Media. Use Twitter or LinkedIn, not Facebook to avoid the eternal &#8216;non-confirm.&#8217; Send a simple great to meet you last night, checked out the website, or even better use a cool app like Hashable that let&#8217;s you connect with others through a simple #with, #justmet, #meeting hashtag. Don&#8217;t write a long message on LinkedIn though you have more room. Complete your online profiles and let that info speak for you.  </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Lindsey Holmes of <a href="http://lchbusiness.com">LCH Business SM &amp; Tech, LLC</a></p>
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<h2>30. To The Hilt, With ILT</h2>
<p>I&#8217;ve found networking (electronic, written, or personal) works best if one begins with a focus on the other person. ILT: Inquiry skills, listening skills, and transition skills. They create the impression you&#8217;d like to help, rather than self-aggrandize. So, when meeting someone new, I use some variation of this line: &#8220;Tell me about your job.&#8221; I listen very carefully and when I hear something that allows me to segue to my products/services, I then ask, &#8220;Would it help if you had ___________?&#8221;</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Marlene Caroselli</p>
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<h2>31. To Get, Give!</h2>
<p>Volunteer but pick an organization that either is related to your profession or is simply something you care about (animals, feeding the hungry, etc.) As you give of your time, tell other volunteers but most especially the people who work at the organziation that you&#8217;re looking for a new opportunity. They will be motivated to help you as you&#8217;re helping them. </p>
<p>Here&#8217;s an example:  a client of mine who was in healthcare marketing didn&#8217;t have a local network so volunteered at the American Cancer Society to help out with marketing one afternoon a week. There she met someone with a robust network in healthcare who was very happy to help her out. Through one of those contacts she landed her next job. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Jean Baur of <a href="http://jeanbaur.com">Lee Hecht Harrison</a></p>
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<h2>32. Be Sure To Get Out And Network In Person At Events</h2>
<p>Be sure to get out and network in person, in addition to networking online. It is advisable to join a professional association in your industry and attend networking events. While it may sound &#8220;old fashioned&#8221; these days, face-to-face networking continues to be a great way to network and establish and maintain connections.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Sharon Reed Abboud of <a href="http://allmomswork.com">allmomswork.com</a></p>
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<h2>33. Networking Has Nothing To Do With You&#8221;</h2>
<p>Successful networking is all about making the people you meet feel comfortable. Too many people think that networking is all about them and how they feel. It&#8217;s really about making the people you meet want to talk with you. It&#8217;s best to simply ask them questions about themselves but not what they do. People love to talk about their families, their pets, their favorite foods. If you allow the conversation to flow you will be surprised how much you will learn about the person. They will want to find out more about you. After you have established rapport, you can tell them about yourself. Or you may just decide to leave that for when you have the cup of coffee or glass of wine.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Kathy McShane of <a href="http://ladieswholaunch.com/southwestct">Ladies Who Launch, Southwestern, Ct</a></p>
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<h2>34. Mastermind Group Becomes Networking/Motivational Group On Steroids</h2>
<p>Start a Mastermind group of female entrepreneurs representing different occupations: attorney, accountant, financial planner, PR, realtor, banker/lender, graphic designer, etc. Mastermind should meet monthly for lunch, dinner, or cocktails and operate on the foundation of free exchange of ideas in a non-competitive environment.  This becomes a motivational group on steroids, with each member pushing the other to succeed.  Once bonding has taken place, a level of trust will be developed such that these will be your go-to gals for sounding out ideas, problem solving, etc., and client referrals will unreservedly be made to members as the need arises. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Cam Gittler of <a href="http://gittlersb.com">Coldwell Banker Previews International</a></p>
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<h2>35. Set A Goal</h2>
<p>When attending large events instead of trying to convert each person you meet into a client or referral source, set a realistic goal to leave with 2 or 3 new contacts whom you would like to learn more about. This will take the pressure off of overdoing it, give you better success in the long term and you may find you actually enjoy networking!</p>
<p>Since networking is about building relationships, find people you like and whose business is interesting to you, then let the friendship flow from there. Follow-up within 3 business days with a friendly email invitation to lunch or coffee and get to know each other. Just like you wouldn&#8217;t refer a valued client to someone after just having been handed a business card, don&#8217;t expect others to do the same for you. </p>
<p>Take the time to get to know others and your network will grow from there.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Kelley C. Long of <a href="http://kelleyclong.com">KCL Financial Coaching</a></p>
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<h2>36. Networking Is Not Asking For A Job</h2>
<p>Networking is talking to as many people as possible to learn about companies of interest, to learn how they hire, to learn what people do and what skill sets are critical. Often when a need arises, people will call the person they networked with if they think there is a fit. Last year, according to the Department of Labor Statistics, more than 80% of all jobs filled were filled through networking. Put your energy where it will make the biggest difference.</p>
<p>A few tips for effective networking:<br />1. Start with low hanging fruit: People you know &#8211; relatives, neighbors, your friends&#8217; parents, etc. <br />2. With each networking meeting ask that person for at least three other people with whom you should contact. <br />3. Leverage your alumni database to make additional contacts. Your network should expand exponentially. <br />4. Keep careful records so you know who you talked to and when. <br />5. Keep your network posted on your progress. <br />6. When you see an opportunity of interest, let the person in your network who works there know of your interest and ask them to pass on your resume.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Lynne Sarikas of <a href="http://cba.neu.edu/">Northeastern University College Of Business Administration</a></p>
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<h2>37. Biggest Tip For Effective Networking</h2>
<p>I think the biggest tip is to become effective at asking the right questions and listening intently. Fight the urge to talk too much about what we have to offer at the first introduction. We have all done it at one time or another, beware not to go for the sale too soon in the process. It is far better to focus on the other person, talk sparingly about our business and setup a one-on-one for later which will give us an opportunity to talk more about what we do in our business.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Rollis Fontenot III of <a href="http://salescoachsite.com">Sales Coach Site.com</a></p>
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<h2>38. There Is A Human Behind The Brand</h2>
<p>Businesses, services and information is viral and can make a huge impact on your promotion, brand and company.  Small businesses utilizing Social Media Outlets help establish their brand in traditional and nontraditional online outlets, which in turn will increase your potential viral impact. Your readers can easily know what&#8217;s going on with you and pass your message on to friends with a simple click,RT and &#8216;status post&#8217;.  Twitter and facebook are amazing toosl and powerful.  People do want to know who is behind the brand, so tweet/post your biz but also make it personal. Let your followers see that you are human and have the same day-to-day that they(your colleague or customer) have.</p>
<p>Social media is an opportunity to reach new customers quickly and you may reach an entirely different group in the online world than you would through other channels and potentially increasing your overall sales the least expensive way (which is important for us small businesses).</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Katie  O&#8217;neill of <a href="http://ktsteppers.com">Kt Steppers Llc</a></p>
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<h2>39. Stop Kicking Up The Sand!</h2>
<p>Some people don&#8217;t network enough, but may people network too much and without focus or purpose. This just kicks up more sand, adds to an already busy schedule, and drains your energy and resources. I suggest this alternative: before you put anymore networking events on your calendar or set foot out the door, hit the pause button. Take a moment to create some intentions on what you want to accomplish and attract (in addition to meeting more potential customers). Create a vision statment of what your ideal networking event looks like for you and your business.  Who is your market and audience? What events do they attend?  What time of day works best for you and your schedule? When are you at your best? What kind of setting do you prefer?  Do you like large groups or smaller ones?  Do you prefer facilitated networking or more free-form mingling? Do you enjoy hearing a good speaker? If so, what topics could help you grow your business and knowledge base? What topics are attractive to your market and audience? How many events can you attend a week or month &#8212; realistically? Creating a plan and having an idea of what networking scenarios are best for you helps you focus on quality, not quantity.`</p>
<p>For example, I don&#8217;t find free happy hours particularly productive. I&#8217;d much prefer to arrange an invitation-only happy hour with my best colleagues and prospects than stand in a crowded, noisy bar with people who are there just because it&#8217;s free and there&#8217;s alcohol available.  I also don&#8217;t like early morning breakfast meetings, although I know plenty of people who do. Lunch time is my best time of day, so I attend meetings where there are plenty of entrepreneurial women, which is my primary market and audience. I also prefer to attend events where there is a good speaker or program that interests me. And I find that one good networking event a week is just right for my schedule. What about you?<br />For more tips on how to be more focused and selective in your networking, watch for my new book The Intentional Netowrker: Attracting Powerful Relationships, Referrals &amp; Results in Business. Available this July.  Until then, contact me at DeNucciandCo@aol.com for details on how to get 20 additional Networking Success Tips  </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Patti DeNucci of <a href="http://intentionalnetworker.com">DeNucci &amp; Co., LLC</a></p>
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<h2>40. The Pool Rules To Networking</h2>
<p>Ever go to a public swimming pool? Pool Rules are always posted to protect everyone and insure a safe swimming experience. Imagine if there were rules posted at every networking event you attended, including association meetings, conferences, conventions, trade shows, chamber mixers, golf outings, and community venues.  </p>
<p>Have no fear! The Pool Rules of Networking are here! Follow these rules to insure you maximize your networking efforts. So Network safe!</p>
<p>Know what networking is! <br />Most people don&#8217;t. Networking is all about learning from and helping people. If you&#8217;re effective and genuine, the people you meet will help you right back!</p>
<p>No selling- ever!<br />Networking is about a relationship not pitching your products and services. When relationships happen so do sales.</p>
<p>Everyone is NOT a prospect.<br />The people you meet at events could become prospects and don&#8217;t assume they are.</p>
<p>It is never about you.<br />Always try to learn about the person (or people) you meet first. It&#8217;s only about you when they make it about you.</p>
<p>Decide on a target market.<br />Who do you serve best and therefore wish to meet? Having a target market will help you determine where to go, what to say, and with whom.</p>
<p>Create (and use!) your elevator pitch.<br />Good to be prepared with a punchy, memorable, different, statement about yourself and the specific connections you ultimately wish to make.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Michael Goldberg of <a href="http://buildingblocksconsulting.com">Building Blocks Consulting</a></p>
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<h2>41. Memorable Networking Tips &#8212; At Trade Shows, Conferences Or Conventions</h2>
<p>I never purchase a trade show booth or recommend others do either.  Why?  Too costly, cumbersome, exhausting, and almost always yields zero return on your investment.  Attending trade shows however, is very worthwhile if you do as I do.</p>
<p>Several years ago I decided to attend an industry trade show event and instead of purchasing a booth and hiring staff to staff it &#8212; I took a ride to the dollar store and purchased:</p>
<p>breath mints<br />chocolates<br />toothbrushes and toothpastes<br />highlighters<br />post-it notes<br />paper clips<br />band-aids </p>
<p>. . . you know, anything you might want, but forgot to bring to a trade show!  I had labels printed with the conference name on it and Survival Kit written across it &#8212; in Military font with camouflage background.  This was hard core.  I meant business.</p>
<p>I paid a concierge $3 to deliver the &#8220;survival kit&#8221; to each person on my list of prospects and clients room with a copy of a book I had written.  No sweat.  The ones that were returned came back to my room and I made a personal deliver to each and every trade show booth I wanted to visit. </p>
<p>By the end of the conference, I was the talk of the town!  </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Nancy Michaels of <a href="http://growyourbusinessnetwork.com">GrowYourBusinessNetwork.com</a></p>
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<h2>42. From The Bottom Up</h2>
<p>Sometimes it seems impossible to contact an executive or expert in a corporation you&#8217;d like to become involved with because they are so busy. Should you give up? Not at all. Rather, start lower on the totem pole.</p>
<p>When I began concentrating on speaking full-time, one of my first priorities was to meet Harvey Mackay, author of Swim With the Sharks Before You Get Eaten Alive and Dig Your Well Before You&#8217;re Thirsty. He was successful, well-connected, knowledgeable, and local.  But would he take my call? No.</p>
<p>I asked my friends who knew Harvey to call or write on my behalf. Through those contacts, I made an appointment to meet Harve&#8217;s assistant. The assistant and I hit it off and learned we shared several things in common. Before my friends were finished making phone calls, I also had an appointment for breakfast with the President of Harvey&#8217;s firm.</p>
<p>Networking through Harvey&#8217;s web of professional and personal relationships landed me my appointment with Harvey and several other meetings since. It never hurts to know the receptionist, secretaries, and administrative personnel who, once they know you by name, can hand you the key to the head office.<br />The disadvantages? It takes longer and may require several appointments until you reach your targeted goal.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Christine Clifford, CSP of <a href="http://christineclifford.com">Christine Clifford Enterprises</a></p>
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<h2>43. It Does Not Have To Be Just Another &#8216;Same Old, Same Old&#8217; Networking Event</h2>
<p>Do you feel you are attending too many networking events, and not making enough sales?  </p>
<p>Turn every network event into an effective and productive referral process by inviting a network attendee you are interested to do business with, or who you feel can provide referrals to you, to a 1:1 meeting as a follow-up to the network event. It&#8217;s difficult to discuss business in detail at network meetings, but spending quality time over coffee, breakfast, or lunch, allows you to build a relationship, share ideas, exchange referrals (you have to give in order to receive), and sometimes, make a sale!</p>
<p>When you do this often enough, your business and professional network will grow organically.  All you have to do is leverage that growing network into sales!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Lin Engie of <a href="http://linkedin.com/in/linengie">Transworld Systems</a></p>
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<h2>44. Don&#8217;t Talk About Yourself!</h2>
<p>Many women get this absurd idea that they have to hard-sell in an aggressive testosterone style when they go to networking events, when really that just turns everyone off (including men!). In reality, we&#8217;re selling ourselves &#8211; our products are just a nice side benefit. </p>
<p>Instead of walking up to a new face, business card thrust out and cheesy grin plastered on your face, ready to gush about your business &#8212; walk up, ask their name and what they do, and then ask how you can help THEM. Ask what kind of customers they are looking for, what problems they&#8217;re trying to solve, everything. And really listen. </p>
<p>They&#8217;ll remember you as being different from all the sleazy sales pitches, and that will serve your business much better in the long run.</p>
<p>The real purpose of networking is just that &#8212; to form a network of supportive peers, who can refer the right customers back to you (and vice versa). It&#8217;s not to wrench every last penny out of every group. That won&#8217;t work, anyway. Take the time to really get to know the other women entrepreneurs in your area, and you can flourish much more than if you spout off a sales reel every time someone talks to you.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Andi Enns of <a href="http://andienns.com">AndiEnns.com Public Relations &amp; Marketing Consulting</a></p>
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<h2>45. Change Your Energy, Change Your Life</h2>
<p>Networking, both successful and unsuccessful, is a function of your energy. </p>
<p>Have you ever walked into a room, say a party, and been drawn to a certain person?  That&#8217;s energy.  We only connect with people on the same wavelength regardless of our behavior. To network successfully pay attention to the types of people who are in your life and the ones you want in your life.  </p>
<p>If you aren&#8217;t attracting the kinds of people you want to associate with take time each morning to be quiet with yourself and get to know yourself. Live consciously and forgo trying to force situations. Shift your energy and allow the people you need to know come into your life.  If this fails to work, take a hard look at your life to determine what&#8217;s blocking you.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Laura George of <a href="http://lhgconsultinginc.com">LHG Consulting, Inc.</a></p>
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<h2>46. Alycia Kaback&#8217;s #1 Tip For Gracious And Effective Networking</h2>
<p>One way to avoid being brash is to simply approach experts in the industry asking for help.  Don&#8217;t ever be afraid to ask for help. Most people are flattered to be asked for advice and to provide assistance for others.  It makes them feel important and successful. However, make sure the people you talk to are qualified. You would not want to ask a homeless man for directions home would you? Advice should come from people already successful in the business. <br />Consider conducting informational interviews, asking industry professionals how they got where they are in the entertainment industry. Talking to people who have already been where you are and surpassed that level is the ultimate networking technique. <br />Don&#8217;t forget to thank everyone in your network who has been helpful to you, preferably with a nice thank-you note. It&#8217;s just common courtesy to show your appreciation for peoples&#8217; time and assistance, and your contacts will remember your good manners and could remember you when more opportunities turn up.</p>
<p>Read the full article here: http://www.articlesbase.com/art-and-entertainment-articles/alycia-kabacks-tips-for-networking-in-the-entertainment-industry-4127594.html</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Alycia  Kaback of <a href="http://alyciakaback.com">VIP Talent Connect/ Kaback Models</a></p>
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<h2>47. Help Others </h2>
<p>The greatest networking tip I learned was to be calm, see how you can help others and follow up. When you help others without seeking to receive opportunities will fall at your feet. </p>
<p>Here are photos of me Networking with Celebrities  </p>
<p>https://www.facebook.com/media/set/fbx/?set=a.132966178487.135416.669338487</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Derrick Hayes of <a href="http://market.android.com/details?id=com.derrickhayes.android.motivation">WOE Enterprises</a></p>
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<h2>48. Advanced Networking 101: The Ultimate Secret Weapon For Building Your Brand While Building Your Netw</h2>
<p>I have been helping executives build their professional brand (while building their network!!)for over fifteen years. Now that&#8217;s a great way to network!That aside, productive networking happens when we take responsibility for the experience we want to have.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s one tip that I share with clients:<br />Be memorable but not by informing and educating. Instead, try asking the best question of the evening! Rather than tell people about yourself which is probably going to be forgotten by the time they drop off their empty glass at the beverage station, make them feel relevant and noticed. And don&#8217;t fall into the networking ditch of saying, &#8220;What do you do for a living? Instead, ask &#8220;Without telling me what you do, tell me what you love about your profession?</p>
<p>Truth be told, no body cares who you are or what you know until they know you care! And, when they know that, then you&#8217;ve got a chance of making a unique impression and building a relationship. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Julie Overholt of <a href="http://julieoverholt.com">Julie Overholt Coaching</a></p>
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<h2>49. Harness The Power Of Passion! </h2>
<p>When I introduce myself as a divorce coach, the most common reaction is a nervous giggle. I laugh appropriately and then quickly explain that my role in the divorce journey is client alignment. As part of the “divorce team”,  I ensure the client gets the best education and information regarding the journey. When someone has experienced a divorce, personally or with a family member or friend, the immediate response after my compelling story is always, “I wish I met you before my divorce.”</p>
<p>The greatest advantage I have in networking is the brevity, authenticity and true passion of my story! I completely believe in my work and the value I add to the divorce experience. I know my clients are better able to cope with all aspects of divorce with my support and guidance.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Sheila Brennan of <a href="http://brennandivorcehelp.com">Divorce Coach</a></p>
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<h2>50. Network Mapping For More Strategic Networking</h2>
<p>One of the common beliefs of our time is: The more you network, the better. But while you can often get unexpected benefits from networking with everyone, all the time, it also requires a lot of time and effort that you can&#8217;t spend otherwise, for example actually doing content work, developing your product etc. What I found most helpful in being strategic in my networking is to sit down alone every once in a while, draw my existing network and ask myself: &#8220;Who influences how strongly that I achieve my goals?&#8221; That led me to undestand for example, that excellent advisors are more important for my business success than any individual client. So I make sure to maintain regular good relationships with those people who have given me good advice in the past. And that, to enter a new market with my consulting business I first had to phase out some of my old clients who were taking up most of my time and resources, so that I could make space in my busy schedule to actively network in the new market. I have developed a simple network mapping method (Net-Map) that is open access, so have a look here: http://netmap.wordpress.com for more information and start being more strategic about their influence networking. Using Net-Map, you can answer the following questions in 5 simple steps: Who are all the important actors? How are they linked? What are their goals? How influential are they? What shall I do about it?</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Eva Schiffer of <a href="http://netmap.wordpress.com">Net-Map</a></p>
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<h2>51. Work The Networking Room Like It Was A Cocktail Party Of Your Friends.</h2>
<p>It seems counter-intuitive, but donˆt make the mistake of promoting or<br />selling yourself to the people you meet (Boring.) The best way to ¯work the<br />room˜ is to find someone and ask them about themselves and their interests.<br />This usually puts the other person at ease. Ask yourself &#8220;How can I help<br />this person in any possible way?&#8217; Then suggest a tip, tool, reference, book,<br />website or referral to help that person out (about any topic, not<br />necessarily related to business). Basically, act like an &#8220;information<br />broker&#8221;. Naturally, the other person will like you and your helpfulness, and<br />ask questions about you and your business, and request your business card. <br />Then move onto the next person.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Maureen Nuccitelli of <a href="http://harmoniouslifedesigns.com">Harmonious Life Designs Professional Organizing Services</a></p>
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<h2>52. Join The Blogosphere!</h2>
<p>“My biggest tip for effective networking is blogging. It’s an extraordinary tool for connecting people to you and your brand. You write about what you know and your audience reads it to learn more about you and your services. Blogging is a very free community, it’s optional to read a post if you so choose, or pass it up in favor of something that better fits your needs.” –Deborah Sweeney, CEO of MyCorporation.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Deborah Sweeney of <a href="http://mycorporation.com">MyCorporation</a></p>
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<h2>53. Know Before You Go: 3 Networking Tips To Master</h2>
<p>The key strategies for optimal networking are the 3 Rs: Research, Rehearse, and Remember:</p>
<p>Research<br />Before you attend the next office party, speed-networking event, or participate in the company retreat, do your research. It could mean the beginning of a new business relationship, or an exercise in futility. Following is a tip to aid you in your research:</p>
<p>Find out who is on the guest list of your professional networking event. With more people using social media and online event registration sites, such as Eventbrite, it is relatively easy to know who is scheduled to attend the gathering, including, perhaps the human resources director from a company you at which you are interested in working.   </p>
<p>Rehearse<br />Rehearse and practice your &#8220;game face&#8221; before you approach someone during a networking event:</p>
<p>The 5-7 second pitch: Create and practice your elevator pitch, an engaging way to present yourself, without the hard sale, or overbearing attitude, in less than 10 seconds. The pitch should always cover: <br />The Who (your name)<br />The What (your work function, volunteer leadership role)<br />The How (how, if at all, you and the person with whom you are speaking are connected)<br />The Why (why you wanted to meet the person in the first place)<br />The Ending (conclude your pitch and toss the conversation back to the other person)</p>
<p>During The Why: During this segment of the pitch, even if you are in desperate need of a job, do not ask for one! It is gauche and unprofessional to beg for a job from someone you have just met. The caveat, however, is that is perfectly okay to express interest in a position if the person with whom you network asks for your resume or says that you might be a good fit for the organization.</p>
<p>The Ending: At the conclusion of your pitch, you should always have in mind 1-3 questions you will ask the people with whom you network. Remember, you do not want to drone on about yourself. Show interest in the other person.</p>
<p>Remember<br />Whether interacting appropriately while networking, donning the proper attire or timely follow-up with the people you meet, there are a few things to remember to make you stand out from the crowd:</p>
<p>Be fashion forward: You do not have to wear the most expensive clothing and shoes; however, you want to ensure your appearance is neat, tidy, and appropriate for the venue. For example, if you were invited to a golf outing, you would not wear a business suit and take along your brief case.</p>
<p>Always follow up directly with those you meet during networking events of any kind. My rule is to initiate follow-up within 48 hours. If you have made a favorable impression, the people you have met and talked with during the event will probably remember you. </p>
<p>Finally, people love to communicate by email, and sending a quick note is appropriate. Remember to spell check, proof read, and eliminate the ungrammatical verbiage before sending the communication to the recipient. Always have an electronic signature at the conclusion of the email that lists ways to get back in touch with you, including links to your social media sites. </p>
<p>Personally, I like sending hand written notes, a notion that is a rarity these days. If I meet someone who is especially engaging and thought provoking, I typically send a note to reinforce my pleasure of having met the person. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Kesi Stribling of <a href="http://ksgsc.com">KSG Strategic Consulting</a></p>
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<h2>54. Say &#8220;Hello&#8221;!</h2>
<p>Although the simple concept of saying &#8220;Hi&#8221; can seem obvious and vague, saying hello is more than just the simple greeting. When you take the time out to say &#8220;hello&#8221; it means, introducing yourself and who you are, as well as getting to know the person you are talking.  Making small talk and taking a genuine interest in their position/company will allow you to retrieve their information and brainstorm a need or idea later. </p>
<p>Now  that you were able to carefully research the person&#8217;s position and their company, you can follow up by reaching out to them with the idea. You&#8217;re no longer a stranger or a random email sent to spam, you are someone they can put a face to. You have also already established your credibility in your first meeting so they won&#8217;t have to waste their time researching if you are the real deal or just a scam.</p>
<p>Remember you never know who you are talking to, or who they may know. The simple act of saying &#8220;Hello&#8221; requires introducing yourself, what you do and then leave it at that. &#8220;Hello&#8221; is not a sales pitch, it is simply building  a foundation that you can successfully network off of!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Vanessa Fusco of <a href="http://socalent.net">SoCal Entertainment</a></p>
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<h2>55. Know Your Stuff!</h2>
<p>Learn how to confidently tell others who you are and what you do. And keep it simple&#8230;.I am a [blank - your business] that works with/helps/teaches [blank - target market] how to [blank - identify challenges] so that they can [blank - results]. Once you write this out, practice saying it aloud and practice often.  You might also want to tweak it a bit for those times when you&#8217;re focusing on a slightly different service or challenge. When you can confidently and effortlessly tell others who you are and what it is that you do, networking will be a breeze!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Katy Tafoya of <a href="http://successforsolopreneurs.com">Success For Solopreneurs</a></p>
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<h2>56. Set Your Radar</h2>
<p>Know who you need to network with, and have your antennae up for those talents wherever you meet and connect with people. Use Your Company’s Super Simple Staffing Support Plan © (available in the book, The Pregnant Entrepreneur) to help you identify who is part of your small business team, even if you don&#8217;t employ them directly.  The tool includes professionals we all need access to, like a CPA, as well as business-specific resources, like a great photographer. By writing down the members of your current team, you can identify who you are missing on your team.  Then you can confidently put the word out that you are looking for a person with a particular skill to round out your small business team. You might meet these resources at formal networking meetings, or you might connect with just the right person through more informal connections with friends and colleagues. </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Darla DeMorrow of <a href="http://pregnantentrepreneur.com">The Pregnant Entrepreneur</a></p>
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<h2>57. Best Networking Tips</h2>
<p>Before you decide to sign up for the event ask yourself and do research:</p>
<p>Why are you going?<br />Clear objective written before going</p>
<p>What are you looking for?<br />Alliances<br />Prospects<br />Customers<br />Who attends?</p>
<p>Will you find the people that you are looking for?</p>
<p>Presenting Yourself…<br />Name Tag on the right side of our jacket<br />Bring your sense of humor</p>
<p>Cell Phone &#8211; leave it in the car, on vibrate, off or for emergency use only – remember – 1st impressions….the prospect gets to decide and the room full of people are watching you</p>
<p>Business Cards &#8211; take theirs and spend time with it for a moment – be purposeful in handing yours to them.  Make it a gift!!!</p>
<p>Smile<br />Exercise your ears give someone your true attention by engaging in conversation will leave a lasting impression; you will develop a reputation within the group. You will learn something!</p>
<p>Ask questions strategically</p>
<p>Follow up; always with at the bare minimum an email within 3-5 days&#8230;refer back to when and how you met<br />refer back to your conversation. Look for an apparent reason to meet and talk over coffee.  If you leave a voice message – let the person know when you will be available so that you can avoid phone tag at all cost</p>
<p>Don’t list dozens of names in the To: and CC: box<br />give purpose to the Subject box</p>
<p>Voicemails are less than a minute long; spell check with your eyes and electronically<br />part of your daily/weekly routine</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Mary  Erlain  of <a href="http://lmi-riverside.com/">LMI-Riverside</a></p>
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		<title>Have you ever been miserable at work? If so, why, and what did you do about it?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Mar 2011 21:04:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[1. The Walking Dead While working in a small division of P&#38;G,I began to notice that people never raised their heads from the floor to say hi to you as we passed each other in the hallway. They were obviously &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/03/17/have-you-ever-been-miserable-at-work-if-so-why-and-what-did-you-do-about-it/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=797&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<h2>1. The Walking Dead</h2>
<p>While working in a small division of P&amp;G,I began to notice that people never raised their heads from the floor to say hi to you as we passed each other in the hallway. They were obviously miserable and it poured over onto me.I simply can&#8217;t work in a negative environment, so I quickly began lobbying for a transfer. Looking back,I believe it trickled down from the senior management team. I believe that life is too short to be miserable, especially with all the hours we spend at work.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Sandie Glass of <a href="http://sandstormideas.com">Sandstorm Inc.</a></p>
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<h2>2. Miserable Because You Don&#8217;t Fit?  Find Out How To Be A Successful Outsider!</h2>
<p>Treat your differences like a product and find the right customer! As soon as Friday came around I was dreading Monday.  I couldn&#8217;t enjoy the weekend because I didn&#8217;t fit in.   I was the square peg in the round hole.  After being let go because of my career-limiting; tie, three years later, I got hired by the same company but in a different location. I was really happy, making more money and doing a good job.  What was the difference?  This new &#8220;customer&#8221; valued what I did.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to David Couper of <a href="http://davidcoupercoach.com">Transitions Coaching</a></p>
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<h2>3. Miserable Graphic Artist Becomes CEO, Film Director, Spy Trainer, And Professional Speaker</h2>
<p>Miserable outside my strengths. I quit to launch a media company, putting the 1st computer game in a cereal box, and 1st CD in Rolling Stone mag. I sold the company and directed a feature film that Warner Bros. distributed, and got hired by the US government to train spies with acting skills. Then started my current company SagePresence, teaching stage presence to business professionals. Look what wouldn&#8217;t have been, had I not strayed from my misery! You must follow your passion and strengths.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Dean Hyers of <a href="http://sagepresence.com">SagePresence</a></p>
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<h2>4. Were You Ever Miserable At Your Job</h2>
<p>I worked in Human Resources Management for almost 20 years, advancing and progressing, but losing enthusiasm.  Suddenly it was 1990, country was going into a recession (Bush 41 recession).  There was a good chance that I&#8217;d have to downsize staff and then myself.</p>
<p>I knew about outplacement consulting because I bought those services when I laid off senior staff.  Had contacts at Right Associates &#8212; got an interview, got freelance work, improved my skills, started my own career coaching business.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Bettina Seidman of <a href="http://seidbet.com">SEIDBET Associates</a></p>
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<h2>5. Miserable?</h2>
<p>Being Miserable is the best reason to find your passion.  My dad wanted me to be an accountant.  While I was good with numbers, I disliked accounting.  I wanted to do something CREATIVE!  On the train into NYC I met a man who told me to follow my passion!  It was my (then)new husband who encouraged me to take the plunge, get a &#8220;NEW&#8221; education; soon after I opened up my own design firm!</p>
<p>It was the best misery I endured; 18 years later, I still love my work and the clients I serve!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Pam DiTomaso, Allied ASID of <a href="http://ryanalexanderinteriors.com">RyanAlexander Interiors</a></p>
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		<title>It Was A Hot Summer Day In Boston&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Mar 2011 02:48:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>michellevillalobos</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I recently had an epiphany that I want to share with you. Bear with me as I begin my story almost 15 years ago... When I graduated from college, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I spent years switching jobs, moving from city to city (NYC, Boston, Concord, NH, just to name a few) and generally being aimless.... <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/03/04/it-was-a-hot-summer-day-in-boston/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=779&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I recently had an epiphany that I want to share with you. Bear with me as I begin my story almost 15 years ago&#8230;</p>
<p>When I graduated from college, <strong>I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.</strong> I spent years switching jobs, moving from city to city (NYC, Boston, Concord, NH, just to name a few) and generally being aimless.</p>
<p>At one point I decided &#8220;wouldn&#8217;t it be fun to work in an art gallery?&#8221; So I walked into the nicest one, on Newbury Street (Boston) and asked if they were hiring.</p>
<p>When the gallery curator interviewed me, the conversation went (something) like this:</p>
<p><img class="alignright" title="Travel the country!!" src="http://michellevillalobos.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/travel-the-country.jpg?w=224&#038;h=300" alt="" width="224" height="300" />&#8220;Do you have any sales experience?&#8221; &#8211;<em> &#8220;Uh, no.&#8221;</em><br />
&#8220;Do you have any art background?&#8221; &#8211;<em>&#8220;Hmmm. Nope.&#8221;</em><br />
&#8220;Have you ever done anything like this at all?&#8221; &#8211;<em>&#8220;Well, last summer I visited 45 cities in 60 days to hand out Dentyne Ice chewing gum samples on street corners. Does that help?&#8221; </em>[See pic at right]</p>
<p>Maybe they were hurting, because <strong>despite my un-qualifications I got the job. </strong>So I packed up, left bustling Concord, NH, and moved to Boston to sell art.</p>
<p>By the 3rd month, I hit #1 in the Boston gallery. In month 9, I ranked #2 among ALL of the art consultants across the entire national franchise. What happened?</p>
<p>I didn&#8217;t get this back then, but in retrospect, it&#8217;s clear. I&#8217;d studied psychology in college, and in the absence of ANY art knowledge OR sales skills, <strong>I relied on a basic &#8220;Psych 101&#8243; technique: personality profiling.</strong></p>
<p>When people walked into the gallery and it was my &#8220;up,&#8221; instead of accosting and trying to &#8220;sell&#8221; them, I focused on reading their body language, adapting to the cues, and developing rapport, mostly by educating them and focusing on the stuff that <em>they</em> wanted to talk about. <strong>The sales followed.</strong> Lots and lots (and lots!) of sales.</p>
<p>The lesson that I see now, in retrospect, is that <strong>I was successful selling because I wasn&#8217;t focused on the sale. </strong>Instead, I was focused on building relationships, and ultimately TRUST. People want to do business with regular people &#8211; not with salespeople, not with logos, not with marketers. Moreover, they want to do business with people they LIKE.</p>
<p>To that end, one of the most powerful ways to connect with other human beings is to adapt to their unique personality type. <strong>Do you know the 4 basic types? </strong>If not, here&#8217;s my &#8220;secret weapon&#8221; so you can use it too.</p>
<p>***</p>
<p>First and foremost, it is important to understand that we ALL have elements of all types, but like a preference for right-handedness or left-handedness, most of the population exhibits a natural preference for certain ways of being over others. <strong>When we understand our natural preferences, and those of others, communication and interaction is just easier.</strong></p>
<p>In addition, there are MANY different ways of categorizing personality type &#8211; The Myers Briggs Type Instrument (a 16-type distinction that, incidentally, my company is certified to administer and interpret), DISC, Keirsey Temperament Sorter, and many, many more.</p>
<p>Below is a SIMPLIFIED 4-type distinction* that can quickly get you to a place where you are recognizing and adapting to different styles. In this type paradigm, <strong>there are 4 basic personality types: Lions, Monkeys, Owls and Koalas.</strong></p>
<p>The below designations are adapted from several sources, but the essence is based on my favorite: <a href="http://www.referralinstitute.com/main/program_details.php?P1=74&amp;P2=S">The Referral Institute&#8217;s Behavioral Styles</a> model.</p>
<p>The Lions and Monkeys (top of the chart below) tend to do things FAST. <strong>They walk fast, talk fast, drive fast and decide fast.</strong></p>
<p>The Owls and Koalas (bottom of the chart below), tend to take their time. <strong>They like to consider things more carefully and tend to be more circumspect in making decisions.</strong></p>
<p>The Lions and Owls (left side of the chart), tend to be more TASK-oriented, whereas the Monkeys and Koalas (right side of the chart) tend to be more PEOPLE-oriented.</p>
<p>The below chart helps you by giving clues about how to adapt to each type.</p>
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So, can you tell which type you are? Let me know here. And if you have any questions, post those too!</p>
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		<title>Been Backstabbed? Have you ever been backstabbed at work? Tell us your story, and what you learned from the experience</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Mar 2011 22:35:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[1. Shut Up About Maybes Got booked to teach a celebrity on national TV to paint-a-picture-in-5 minutes using my patented 4 step &#8220;Instant-Art&#8221; Method.Bragged about it &#8211; unfortunately another artist heard &#8211; called &#8211; used my name, got booked instead &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/03/02/been-backtabbed-have-you-ever-been-backstabbed-at-work-tell-us-your-story-and-what-you-learned-from-the-experience/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=773&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<h2>1. Shut Up About Maybes </h2>
<p>Got booked to teach a celebrity on national TV to paint-a-picture-in-5 minutes using my patented 4 step &#8220;Instant-Art&#8221;  Method.<br />Bragged about it &#8211; unfortunately another artist heard &#8211; called &#8211; used my name, got booked instead of me &#8211; and OF COURSE couldn&#8217;t guide the celebrity to look good and get instant results. AS excited as you may be, don&#8217;t let news out until firm &#8211; better yet &#8211; accomplished. I learned-made a contract to teach DAVID LETTERMAN 6 times on NBC-TV. REMEMBER it pays to keep quiet!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to CONNI Gordon of <a href="http://conni@connigordon.org">CONNI GORDON ARTS FOUNDATION, INC.</a></p>
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<h2>2. Think You Should Kill With Kindness? The Answer Will Surprise You!</h2>
<p>Experience should have taught me that I would be in for trouble when I was hired into a role temporarily filled by another competitive woman. My intuition quickly picked up her subversive negative energy, so I went right to work to dilute it with my more powerful strong positive. What began as smoldering ash, turned into an explosion! I learned that negative energy would have been diffused by simply letting it go. Adding highly charged energy- even positive- created combustion. FIRED!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Nanette Saylor of <a href="http://wisewellwomen.com">Wise Well Women Inc.</a></p>
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<h2>3. Trust Yourself </h2>
<p>Still pretty new in the company, I was once intimidated into doing something incorrectly by a know-it-all arrogant ex-bookkeeper who years earlier had held my job for over a decade and who returned as summer help.  When the mistake was discovered, she rolled her eyes to her familiar clique and laughed loudly with such superiority about having this girl here messing up.  Lesson learned: Believe in yourself, have confidence,  and always do what you think is right!    </p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Heidi Diana of <a href="http://schooljungle.us">School Jungle: All Things Educational</a></p>
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<h2>4. Boys On The Prowl</h2>
<p>After diligently working my way up the restaurant chain ladder to upper management, the new all male team that bought our company out decided women needed to be driven out of the company. I filed a complaint with HR &amp; ended up being threatened by the Area Director. I quit &amp; opened my own restaurant. It motivated me to stand on my own &amp; now I am on the newest successful venture, growing real estate in Metro Boston. Some times back stabbing is the boost you need to become successful!</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Lisa Flashenburg of <a href="http://legaledgere.com">Legal Edge Real Estate, Inc.</a></p>
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<h2>5. Do Nurses Care For Nurses?</h2>
<p>&#8220;Do nurses eat their young?&#8221; Every year nursing magazines ask that &amp; every year the answer is &#8220;yes&#8221;. I&#8217;m a firm believer in worker&#8217;s unions, and that striking is an absolute last resort- better to use Conflict Resolution strategies and take 6 months than to strike after 3 months. My first job I crossed a picket line for just that-thought it&#8217;d been hastily chosen. After I was the subject of pranks, gossip, and things purposefully undone by other nurses blamed on me. Lives at risk for revenge.</p>
<p class="attribute">Thanks to Jan Patterson of <a href="http://blog.janetmpattersonrn.com">An Ounce Of Prevention</a></p>
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		<title>Freaking Out Onstage&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Feb 2011 22:36:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>michellevillalobos</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m a ham. I love getting on a stage and presenting. The bigger the audience, the more exciting, the more exciting, the more adrenaline, the more adrenaline, the better my performance. But it wasn&#8217;t always that way. That same adrenaline &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/02/14/freaking-out-onstage/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=766&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><!-- p.p1 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px 'American Typewriter'; color: #144fae} p.p2 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px 'American Typewriter'; color: #144fae; min-height: 14.0px} span.s1 {text-decoration: underline} -->I&#8217;m a ham. I love getting on a stage and presenting. The bigger the audience, the more exciting, the more exciting, the more adrenaline, the more adrenaline, the better my performance.</p>
<p>But it wasn&#8217;t always that way. That same adrenaline that today fuels my performance used to have the opposite effect (forget &#8220;fight&#8221; or &#8220;flight,&#8221; it was more like &#8220;freak out&#8221; and &#8220;freeze&#8221;).</p>
<p>First, I used to try to memorize presentations. The problem with memorization is that the moment I&#8217;d get stuck, it would completely derail me. Another thing I did was create slide shows full of bullet points so that I wouldn&#8217;t forget anything&#8230; problem is then I&#8217;d end up reading slides. That would have been fine – if my goal had been to BORE my audience to death.</p>
<p>I knew that getting up in front of an audience and being a COMPELLING speaker would have a huge impact on my business. So I made a real effort to learn how. I took improv acting classes for over a year, I attended Toastmasters, I read books. I practiced. These days speaking is a huge driver of both revenues and leads to my business.</p>
<p>I tell you this so you understand what went into creating what I&#8217;m sending you right now. It&#8217;s a slideshow of the Top 20 Tips To Being A Compelling Speaker:</p>
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<p>By the way, I&#8217;m also doing a Public Speaking Workshop for people who need a little more help (and honest, hands-on coaching).</p>
<p>Basic info here: <a href="http://www.TheSpeakEasyProgram.com/">http://www.TheSpeakEasyProgram.com</a>.</p>
<p>Ciao for now&#8230;</p>
<p>Michelle</p>
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		<title>Criticism For You</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Jan 2011 16:13:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever struggled taking constructive criticism like I do? I just found a clever way to learn from it and wanted to share it with you. A few weeks ago, I gave a presentation and felt I had done &#8230; <a href="http://michellevillalobos.wordpress.com/2011/01/29/criticism-for-you/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=michellevillalobos.wordpress.com&amp;blog=6401778&amp;post=757&amp;subd=michellevillalobos&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Have you ever struggled taking constructive criticism like I do? I just found a clever way to learn from it and wanted to share it with you.</p>
<p><a href="http://michellevillalobos.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/constructive-criticism.png"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-761" title="Constructive Criticism" src="http://michellevillalobos.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/constructive-criticism.png?w=288&#038;h=300" alt="" width="288" height="300" /></a>A few weeks ago, I gave a presentation and felt I had done a really good job. But when it was over, a colleague asked if I could handle his honest feedback. You probably know what was next. He proceeded to tear me apart (okay, maybe it just FELT that way). Normally, I would try to defend myself and give all the reasons why he was WRONG.</p>
<p>But this time, I instead tried to find additional reasons on why he was RIGHT! And with that little trick, I was taking the feedback in stride and finding ways to improve. In my case, one of the most valuable takeaways is that my closing was weak, and I could end my presentations much stronger. That&#8217;s going to really help me as I move forward.</p>
<p>The next time you are being criticized, try the same strategy. Think of ways to support the criticism &#8211; just enough to shift the context from &#8220;They are wrong&#8221; to &#8220;They are right&#8221; – it may highlight some blind spots that you didn&#8217;t realize you had and open yourself up for big time improvement.</p>
<p>Wishing you a wonderful 2011.</p>
<p>Michelle</p>
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