Have you ever been miserable at work? If so, why, and what did you do about it?

1. The Walking Dead

While working in a small division of P&G,I began to notice that people never raised their heads from the floor to say hi to you as we passed each other in the hallway. They were obviously miserable and it poured over onto me.I simply can’t work in a negative environment, so I quickly began lobbying for a transfer. Looking back,I believe it trickled down from the senior management team. I believe that life is too short to be miserable, especially with all the hours we spend at work.

Thanks to Sandie Glass of Sandstorm Inc.

2. Miserable Because You Don’t Fit? Find Out How To Be A Successful Outsider!

Treat your differences like a product and find the right customer! As soon as Friday came around I was dreading Monday. I couldn’t enjoy the weekend because I didn’t fit in. I was the square peg in the round hole. After being let go because of my career-limiting; tie, three years later, I got hired by the same company but in a different location. I was really happy, making more money and doing a good job. What was the difference? This new “customer” valued what I did.

Thanks to David Couper of Transitions Coaching

3. Miserable Graphic Artist Becomes CEO, Film Director, Spy Trainer, And Professional Speaker

Miserable outside my strengths. I quit to launch a media company, putting the 1st computer game in a cereal box, and 1st CD in Rolling Stone mag. I sold the company and directed a feature film that Warner Bros. distributed, and got hired by the US government to train spies with acting skills. Then started my current company SagePresence, teaching stage presence to business professionals. Look what wouldn’t have been, had I not strayed from my misery! You must follow your passion and strengths.

Thanks to Dean Hyers of SagePresence

4. Were You Ever Miserable At Your Job

I worked in Human Resources Management for almost 20 years, advancing and progressing, but losing enthusiasm. Suddenly it was 1990, country was going into a recession (Bush 41 recession). There was a good chance that I’d have to downsize staff and then myself.

I knew about outplacement consulting because I bought those services when I laid off senior staff. Had contacts at Right Associates — got an interview, got freelance work, improved my skills, started my own career coaching business.

Thanks to Bettina Seidman of SEIDBET Associates

5. Miserable?

Being Miserable is the best reason to find your passion. My dad wanted me to be an accountant. While I was good with numbers, I disliked accounting. I wanted to do something CREATIVE! On the train into NYC I met a man who told me to follow my passion! It was my (then)new husband who encouraged me to take the plunge, get a “NEW” education; soon after I opened up my own design firm!

It was the best misery I endured; 18 years later, I still love my work and the clients I serve!

Thanks to Pam DiTomaso, Allied ASID of RyanAlexander Interiors

Been Backstabbed? Have you ever been backstabbed at work? Tell us your story, and what you learned from the experience

1. Shut Up About Maybes

Got booked to teach a celebrity on national TV to paint-a-picture-in-5 minutes using my patented 4 step “Instant-Art” Method.
Bragged about it – unfortunately another artist heard – called – used my name, got booked instead of me – and OF COURSE couldn’t guide the celebrity to look good and get instant results. AS excited as you may be, don’t let news out until firm – better yet – accomplished. I learned-made a contract to teach DAVID LETTERMAN 6 times on NBC-TV. REMEMBER it pays to keep quiet!


2. Think You Should Kill With Kindness? The Answer Will Surprise You!

Experience should have taught me that I would be in for trouble when I was hired into a role temporarily filled by another competitive woman. My intuition quickly picked up her subversive negative energy, so I went right to work to dilute it with my more powerful strong positive. What began as smoldering ash, turned into an explosion! I learned that negative energy would have been diffused by simply letting it go. Adding highly charged energy- even positive- created combustion. FIRED!

Thanks to Nanette Saylor of Wise Well Women Inc.

3. Trust Yourself

Still pretty new in the company, I was once intimidated into doing something incorrectly by a know-it-all arrogant ex-bookkeeper who years earlier had held my job for over a decade and who returned as summer help. When the mistake was discovered, she rolled her eyes to her familiar clique and laughed loudly with such superiority about having this girl here messing up. Lesson learned: Believe in yourself, have confidence, and always do what you think is right!

Thanks to Heidi Diana of School Jungle: All Things Educational

4. Boys On The Prowl

After diligently working my way up the restaurant chain ladder to upper management, the new all male team that bought our company out decided women needed to be driven out of the company. I filed a complaint with HR & ended up being threatened by the Area Director. I quit & opened my own restaurant. It motivated me to stand on my own & now I am on the newest successful venture, growing real estate in Metro Boston. Some times back stabbing is the boost you need to become successful!

Thanks to Lisa Flashenburg of Legal Edge Real Estate, Inc.

5. Do Nurses Care For Nurses?

“Do nurses eat their young?” Every year nursing magazines ask that & every year the answer is “yes”. I’m a firm believer in worker’s unions, and that striking is an absolute last resort- better to use Conflict Resolution strategies and take 6 months than to strike after 3 months. My first job I crossed a picket line for just that-thought it’d been hastily chosen. After I was the subject of pranks, gossip, and things purposefully undone by other nurses blamed on me. Lives at risk for revenge.

Thanks to Jan Patterson of An Ounce Of Prevention

What Sales Skills Can Women Best Cultivate?

Women have some great sales skills that come naturally. The trick is, how do you best leverage them?


1. No Matter What Your Age May Be, Let It Be An Asset Instead Of A Handicap.

In my case, I was in my very early 20s when I started my business and instead of letting my youth be a handicap, I treated it like an asset. Typically, potential clients would approach a meeting with me not knowing my age. Upon meeting me, it was very clear to them that I was young. Throwing them of like this was very much an advantage for me because I could then take control of the situation and confidently deliver an excellent pitch.

Thanks to Cole Imperi of Doth Brands

2. Natural Sales Skills That Female Sales Professionals Can Work

The female salesperson has an ability to empathize with potential customers. This makes her exceptionally well suited to the needs analysis portion of professional selling. Men tend to want to jump right into fixing things and offering solutions. By doing more needs analysis to find what pain the potential customer is feeling, female salespeople can more readily examine the customer’s concerns and bring them to an emotional point where they are willing to buy an end to those concerns.

Thanks to Todd Miller of Classic Metal Roofing Systems

3. Kid, You’re A Natural

Women have some things going for them that make them natural salespeople. For one thing, women are natural listeners – THE key skill for a successful sales person. Women listen well because we are truly interested in what the other person has to say. This allows us the opportunity to really hear their needs and situation. In addition, because we are natural listeners, people like to talk with us. We are genuinely interested so the other party feels free to communicate with us.

Thanks to Diane Helbig of Seize This Day Coaching

4. Develop Your Intuitive Abilities

We are all born with 10 senses, the 5 physical and 5 spiritual senses of intuition, clairvoyance, clair-sentience, clair-audience and clair-cognizance. By learning to “read” potential clients and by learning to listen to your external and internal Guidance system, you can increase your sales by huge margins. We are all born with intuitive abilities but we turn them off in childhood so it is just a matter of re-learning to tune into this amazing Guidance system for increased sales.

Thanks to Terri Jay of Terri Jay, Intuitive Messenger

5. Be A Dead Head!

No, don’t take up the wacky tobaccy and buy a VW van. But, take your cues from one of the most successful bands and give away your expertise as much as possible. The Grateful Dead were known for giving away their music and videos. Do the same, but applied to your field. Make connections for your target customers, give away your expertise, show them to where they can find answers to their problems, even if its not with you. People will remember you and word will travel.

Thanks to Lea Richards of Pig Of The Month BBQ

6. Ask And You Shall Receive!

When you are sitting down with a prospect; the first tool to use is asking questions. Ask what their current experience is like with their existing vendor and vendors product, ask what they would change about it, then ask; what else. The prospect will tell you what they are looking for and what they are currently dissatisfied with. Start your questions with “tell me”;”what do you”;”how do you”,etc. Make sure you’re listening, because they will tell you everything you need to know to close them.

Thanks to Amy Sangster of Muzak Focus Four, West Palm Beach

7. Stop Spinning Your Wheels. Just Go With What You Already Know How To Do.

When I was ready to leave full-time mom status and re-enter the workforce, I decided to start my own business so that I could still be mom first & schedule my days accordingly. I took a look at what I’m good at. Rather than trying something completely new, I realized I’m really good at..well… yapping. I like to tell my friends about the newest widget I found and build fans. So, naturally, my career in product representation & social media marketing made sense. I tweet & FB & build more fans!

Thanks to Shane Shaps of 520 East Brands

8. Yes, Virginia, It Is Still A Man’s World!

I have been in sales for 40 years!! (Always on a commission basis). I have always been successful because no matter how much we want to believe otherwise it is a “man’s world” in business and I have to acknowledge that. Women do hold important positions but the mindset has not changed as rapidly as we would like.
As a tip to women sales professionals: If your clients are men, learn about sports, financial matters (bonds,how money moves,Bernacke etc) and politics. They want to qualify you as a person. I have seen it time and time again. If your clients are women, you have to be able to walk in their shoes and understand their side of the equation. Empathize not sympathize.

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9. What Sales Skills Can Women Cultivate/Capitalize On?

Be nurturing like your favorite grandmother. Ask good questions. Listen intently to your prospects, so they feel heard. Give them praise for how hard they work, how much they’ve accomplished and all that they’ve overcome.

Thanks to Carrie Hensel of Inner Circle Media